growing relationships on purpose
deepening our relationships
Relationships are all about connection and communication at a meaningful level. Often we want to communicate at a deeper level, but find it hard to know how to start.​
starting to talk about “worthwhile stuff"
Relationships grow when we talk about “worthwhile stuff”, but the more we don’t talk about things that matter, the more difficult it is to start. We sometimes need help to find the material to have the dialogues that will grow our connection with eachother.
why "on purpose?”
relationships at crossroads
We may even feel we are moving in opposite directions, don’t really understand why and can’t see how to work out together what’s happening
starting a “dialogue on purpose"
I can hear people saying “I want to grow my relationship, not find out my purpose.”
Yet purpose is at the root of who we are.
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purpose gives us direction,
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purpose underpins our ambitions, our passions, what we spend our time on.
And sitting underneath purpose are our values, our beliefs, our strengths - who we are.
Imagine working out your purpose, and sharing it with your partner; imagine hearing their purpose and talking together about you can work together to both get more of what you each want.
getting underneath purpose
And the great thing about my “living on purpose” programme is that you find your purpose by getting much clearer on who you are and what you want.
As you follow my purpose process so you will:
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find out your favourite character words, prioritised into your top 12 (1st to 12th)
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amazingly so many people tell me how transformational this is to start to see their values opening out infront of them - and of course infront of their partner when you share it
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find out your favourite action words, again, prioritised into your top 12 (1st to 12th)
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again, amazingly, so many people tell me how transformational this is to start to see what they love doing unravelling infront of them - and of course infront of their partner when you share it
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find out what you want to achieve as you live out your character words, doing the action words you love
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And the process is so simple
starting to talk
We often label people as difficult. In fact, it is often the case that people aren’t difficult, we just don’t fully understand them and why they do or say what they do. Then without understanding them, we can easily jump to judgements.
The solution is to get curious about that person, and dig below their behaviour to really understand them and what makes them tick. To do this:
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imagine having the words that really describe you, and being able to talk about them to the other person
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imagine them having their words that really describe them, and being able to talk about them you
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imagine putting those words together so you can see similarities and differences and start to understand the times that work and the times that don’t - those trigger points
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imagine starting to share together your visions of how you each want your world to be
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imagine sharing both your purpose statements and spending time understanding them
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and if you have a real sense of your purpose for the next however many months and years, imagine sharing that and working together to help you both achieve them...
the impact of this
My experience over the years working with people is that
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as we really get hold of who we are and what we love, so we start to value ourselves more;
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as we really get hold of these ideas for those important people around us, so we start to understand them, so we value them more; and
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as we sit down and look for overlaps and differences, so we can start working together to build the future we want together.
This is having a “dialogue on purpose”
